This indeed was from the current life, and we understand your dilemma here and your emotional concern about her, first and foremost, and then yourself as well, in being the bearer of such grim news, and being concerned about the consequences, both for her and yourself should there be an emotional backlash or some worsening of circumstances for her, as can well happen in bringing to conscious awareness something so dark it has been suppressed for all of the lifetime specifically to avoid a meltdown. This does represent a grave responsibility for anyone in possession of such knowledge with the potential to be so very disturbing and disruptive as well. This is particularly the case with emotionally devastating information that could well be disputed and may never be possible to prove or disprove, and this can leave you in a vulnerable position, as well as causing harm.
She is fully prepared to hear there has been such a history, but no one can prepare sufficiently to hear such a story about one’s own father for the first time after many years of having it suppressed from conscious awareness. In almost every instance, such suppression serves the person because there is an inner knowing they would suffer so greatly from awareness of what took place that it would be devastating for them to recall those experiences. The fact that it is buried is serving her up to a point, and as you can see from her current lifestyle, there are consequences playing out. So a counterargument is fully justified, to point out the cost of carrying this inner burden. It is not the case she is off the hook, so to speak, but rather is suffering significantly from the inner emotional turmoil it has caused, and this is confusing and confounding her decision-making about her life, in particular the issue of marriage.
There is something deeply symbolic about this in putting herself at risk and potentially at the mercy of a male figure, and this is causing inner qualms. It is not from logic. It is all emotion, but as you know, emotion has great power and must be reckoned with. Doing inner healing with this process you can offer her is the very best way for her to recover from the consequences of this, and will be very, very, fruitful. This will not take extensive work either, and that is because it is one life’s experiences and not a long and heavy history that has loomed so large as to be a daunting prospect for healing. While all trauma causes resonance from past life issues to some extent, the fact this has been hidden has served its function to not reawaken too many sleeping dogs, so to speak. This makes the enterprise more doable in a practical sense.
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