We reassured a client that her recently deceased lover, who died in a vehicle accident and for whom we did a Spirit Rescue to help him return to the light, could visit her in the dream state, as that is the easiest way for beings in the light to converse with loved ones in the living. She wrote me back the following: “Thanks Karl, I appreciate your words of encouragement. He did actually visit me in my dreams the day after you sent me an email saying you had done the healing. I have never had him come to me in my dreams in all the time I’ve known him, so this was very healing and a beautiful experience. Thanks once again.” Was this a real dream visitation from him as a light being?

That is absolutely the case, and you were impulsed to reply in this way to her entreaty, reaching out because her grief continues. That is normal and it is appropriate for people to go through a period in purging their sorrow through tears and to be preoccupied with the loss. After all, this is what makes you human, that you care deeply about loved ones, and the tragic loss of a deep love is especially tragic and hard to bear. Many falter and many will simply not fully recover during their lifetime from such a blow. The world will never seem the same again and they will live under a shadow in everything they do because they know that part of them they shared with another is gone forever. We would see that as over-honoring the love bond that is seemingly lost as the be-all and end-all of existence. There are many purposes for life, many outlets for loving feelings, and many potential partners one can have, to share life with, to learn and grow, and love alongside. This is not being disloyal to anyone. After all, once people depart from the earth plane, it is not reasonable or appropriate to expect the world to stop turning. Those remaining in the physical continue to have needs and they need love above all else. This is the wisdom in the encouragements to move on, to pay their dues and respects to the departed in honoring what they represented and the nature of the loss that is felt, but you rightly pointed out to her that to build a shrine to the act of death, the absence of a person, and to have the major reminder of the relationship be a visit to the cemetery, for example, creates a morbid halo around the memories and is the opposite of what light beings want for those remaining behind. They want people to find love and find lovers again because it is important to have love and to be in love, and there is much still to be learned through a love partner relationship for this individual just like everyone else. You are never done with the lessons of love until your last breath is gone and then you are on to a new leg in your journey, so to speak, where the unfolding will continue for you and there will be new opportunities and adventures of all kinds and opportunities for reuniting with former loves. So there needs to be no sense of possession or exclusivity or being unfaithful to vows when someone dies leaving a healthy partner behind with nothing but memories to sustain them. Your suggestion to watch for a dream visitation was impulsed by us because this had in fact already happened, as she recounted in her reply to you, and so we wanted you to get the credit, to be on record with a prophetic awareness of possibility here. He was coming as his current self, his love energy in the forefront and representing himself through imagery as he was in the physical for purposes of maximum recognition and enjoyment in sharing the closeness even though in the mind and not in the flesh, so to speak. This was done totally through and by love coming from both parties and was sanctioned by Creator to happen, to help provide closure for the grieving partner and was much deserved because of the depth of her love. He will continue to be a part of her life but is cheering her on and hopes she will find much happiness in her future and find love again.