It is very much the case that trust is a very precious commodity and it is one of the risks in your misconduct, to lose the trust of those around you. This is why reputations matter, it is largely the issue of trust that is at stake and at risk when behavior causes harm to others, and when wounded in this fashion, may not trust you again and will not put themselves at risk to be under your power, control, or influence. People vary in their tolerance for mistakes, malfeasance, and misconduct. Some have a very forgiving nature; some may actually be drawn as a moth to a flame to a perpetrator and, in effect, surrender themselves to an abuser because of a karmic predisposition to be a victim. But most commonly, points of friction will erode trust in proportion to the level of irritation it causes, so everyone puts their future at risk through mistreating others because when trust evaporates, future interactions will be resisted or prevented altogether and this can shut a person out totally from any kind of further relationship or membership in a group, as the case may be.
The art of living is to honor the rights of others as well as serving the self because life demands tolerance and a cooperative attitude to strike a balance between seeing to one’s own needs and being in a position to help others along the way, and sometimes electing to defer one’s own benefits as an act of kindness and giving to others. This will always be noticed and appreciated and will build confidence and much trust in you if you are generous and have a kind spirit. Everyone is thirsty for love and that is why an act of loving kindness is so potent in growing friendships and trusted alliances, and this will bring many dividends to those involved in such partnerships because then you are not traveling alone and have a compatriot who you might call on at an inopportune time, when trouble comes along and you need a friend to help you in some way or another—gaining the trust of others is a life skill that pays many dividends and can even be lifesaving.
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