This passage is from a poem by Edna St. Vincent Millay: “Time does not bring relief; you all have lied Who told me time would ease me of my pain! I miss him in the weeping of the rain; I want him at the shrinking of the tide; The old snows melt from every mountain-side, And last year’s leaves are smoke in every lane; But last year’s bitter loving must remain Heaped on my heart, and my old thoughts abide.” What is Creator’s perspective?

This is a perfect illustration of the downside of love and having a strong commitment to a relationship that is intense and passionate. Its loss will be wounding, at least for a time. When one does not recover it is because of the trauma left in the wake of lost love. What this speaks to is a need for healing and repair. It is not truly noble to suffer, nor is the loss of love meant to be a never-ending tragedy to be suffered for the duration of one's lifetime. When that plays out, it reflects the fact that someone has been damaged by the loss of love because of a prior vulnerability, so what is on display is not something noble and appropriate because of the size of the loss, the fact it leaves such a hole is because something was already fragile about the one in love. So, in addition to its satisfactions and rewards, it was shielding from view an inner vulnerability and a less than robust makeup. So love was helping the person get by, and feel secure and comfortable, so that loss of that love relationship exposed an inner defect of a sort, a state of incompletion that was not created by the love relationship but compensated for, creating the illusion of a kind of heightened experience that made a person feel complete and joyous, but that was a kind of illusion to begin with because love alone from another cannot make a person whole. It might make them quite happy and, if lifelong, might get them by, but if their makeup is uneven and having some deep wounding and vulnerability, resulting in a lack of confidence in the self and self-esteem with the disappearance of a lover, this will leave the person who is incomplete often bereft and miserable. And they may never recover because the problem has been all along that there were healing needs not being attended to, and seeing to that, and being successful in doing a repair, will be all the more difficult when a person has been heavily traumatized by the loss of a love relationship that leaves them with little or nothing, at least in terms of how they feel about life. This speaks to the need to work at things, to work to heal the karmic backlog of trauma from multiple lives that were often short and brutal. Love was fleeting, and often unattainable many times given the uneven state of being when one was born into poverty or during periods of famine or endless war. Many times, the devastating effects of a lost love will stir up memories of losing loved ones under the worst of circumstances, adding insult to injury that is not fully understood consciously, but what this illustrates is many humans have a huge inner liability from their unhealed trauma, and it may well overtake them in their current life if left unattended because eventually a setback of some kind will stir up trouble that may become overwhelming.