DWQA QuestionsCategory: Limiting BeliefsThe feeling of shame is associated with the “conscience” of a person. In fact, the very existence of this phenomenon is one of the most persuasive arguments there is for the existence of the divine. It’s hard to take the “conscience” for granted. Unfortunately, we have learned that the feeling of shame is a rather crude form of messaging that can be delivered from multiple sources, some benevolent and some malevolent. Presumably, it can come from the higher self, guides and guardians, and even Creator. It can also be triggered by the deep subconscious, cellular memory, spirit attachments, and perhaps most alarmingly of all, the interlopers—fallen angelics and extraterrestrials. Figuring out both the origin and relevancy of feelings of shame is one of the most profound challenges every human being faces. What is Creator’s perspective?
Nicola Staff asked 3 months ago
What you are describing is the fact that shame is often a message. When it is felt by a person, because of the actions of another, it might be because there is a comeuppance that is deserved being experienced and, if someone is sensitive enough to the truth of things and has been caught taking advantage or being selfish in some way, may well feel quite intense shame in being found wanting, especially if they truly care about the other person and their opinion and do want to please them. But keep in mind that the feeling of shame is self-generated so it is truly a yardstick of personal strength, understanding, and discernment in the context of an array of soul attributes that might help a person feel quite secure and confident so as to take a criticism in stride and immediately move to make amends in a way that is positive and supportive without feeling a personal attack, but simply understanding the other person might be quite upset because of being neglected or disregarded in some way, and is lashing back out of feeling hurt themselves. And this often happens without a true regard for how it will be received and how damaging it might turn out to be, nor any reflection on the wisdom of causing the same level of pain, or worse, to the perpetrator as though that will solve the problem. That is fighting fire with fire, and almost always makes things worse, and can develop into a serious roadblock to recovery and restoration. So this is why you can list, blithely, the panoply of divine beings who may interact with a person in the physical—their soul extension of their higher self, angelic beings, and even Creator—in pricking their conscience and perhaps even causing feelings of shame. It is not that the divine is doling out shame and inflicting it on the incarnated person to make them a victim. In all cases, it will simply be a strong reminder about something happening that is out of divine alignment, and it is that person feeling that prick of conscience who might immediately recoil and have a shameful feeling arise from being exposed as having fallen down on their job, so to speak, and committing a transgression of some kind to harm the self or others. So the ability to feel shame is a kind of diagnostic indicator of the state of completion in a person's makeup. For one thing, someone living in divine alignment, in a true sense, will not do something shameful, something deserving of feeling shame about it, so this is a useful indicator about your state of being. When you hear from your conscience and have feelings of shame arise within in recognizing a transgression being pointed out, this is usually because the conscience is sending a reminder reflecting a state of misalignment, and that feeling of shame is the measure of that gap between what ought to be and what is missing in your actions that would have been more appropriate, to maintain a state of grace and fit in with others without causing harm or contributing to a difficult situation. So the take-home message here is simply that if someone makes you feel ashamed there is a healing need on display. It might be as much on the part of the accuser or perpetrator as is true for you in recognizing an inadequacy and feeling bad about it. Both parties may well be engaging in a shameful act without realizing they are sharing in the same crime, so to speak. The ability to feel shame is a normal attribute because it is important to have such a capability when you get out of alignment and engage in something nondivine. It is quite appropriate in such a circumstance to have a comeuppance, to pay a price emotionally at least, as a kind of reckoning that acts as a sort of object lesson, as a reminder, and perhaps a punishment as well for reinforcement. While often overdone and too heavy-handed, such experiences often turn out to be among the most important life lessons one can experience. So the fault is not in the system, only that all human beings are a work in progress, as is true for light beings as well, and there will be consequences for every act—good, bad, or neutral.