Here you are discussing differing sides of the same coin, that trust is an expectation when it is freely given and the intentions are honorable when interacting with someone. Because the ability to trust is a sign of confidence and inner strength, someone who projects a mistrustful nature will arouse suspicion, and this is justifiably so because trust is an important foundational requisite of a healthy human interrelationship. It is always earned along the way, but there must be a provisional trust for a relationship to get going. So a relationship that begins with signs of mistrust at the outset will be seen as a red flag, a kind of warning to be wary of that mistrustful person. After all, letting someone into your life, if only in a casual way at first, may be low risk but the risk is never zero. There are always potential pitfalls and the possibility of an ugly surprise in putting your confidence in someone being reliable and fair-minded. There is also an instinctive awareness that, because trust is such an important foundational attribute and condition for smooth-running human interrelationships, someone who has trouble trusting others may well not be rewarding to invest time in getting to know them and being involved with them, and perhaps, in growing ways, dependent on them to be reliable, supportive, and an asset in general. So, as a general working principle, trust in others as well as being trustworthy are requisites for full acceptance by other people. While at first acquaintance trust will be given provisionally, it must be developed and strengthened for a relationship to become a sustained and satisfying one, otherwise people will pull away and move on to better prospects.
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