It is more a symptom then a causal element. It is, in essence, the response of his biological imperative to have a sexual outlet in the face of a strong karmic predisposition to avoid the subject altogether in having many, many, unpleasant associations with sexual encounters and sexual feelings, both. This is driving him to seek a substitute. And so, self-gratification is the next best thing and has carried many people through lifetimes of isolation, for whatever reason, when they were unable to have a sexual partner as nature intended, but nonetheless have a strong drive to seek gratification. As we have discussed with you before, this is not sinful in the religious sense, but rather a consequence of biology, that strong urges of this kind must find an outlet. Some, who are extremely strongly self-disciplined, can sublimate their desire and exercise it solely through dream experiences, which may include nocturnal emissions, but during the day distract themselves sufficiently to avoid having a crisis of conscience when they might weaken and seek some kind of outlet, and then feel they have sinned in some way.
In his case, there is indeed sexual confusion, and that is playing out in his choice of pornographic material, so to speak. There is nothing inherently wrong with seeking such gratification. His dislike for the practice is a consequence of his upbringing and is preconceived ideas about proper conduct and the quandary he finds himself in being in a state of uncertainty about his orientation, and then seeing there are thoughts that come up that are unwanted because they conflict with his biological gender. And so, this is a source of great inner conflict and suffering that is truly needless, because he is in fact struggling with his identity, and that is the issue, not the use of a sexual outlet as a stimulus to self-satisfy. He is currently being worked on with a Soul Reset, and we told you this can happen, where people may experience a major change of some kind which can include a change in sexual orientation, or the dissolution of a long-term marital partnership that no longer serves the person in their new mode of expression.
It is too early to make a pronouncement where this might lead, and how he will feel when things truly stabilize. This may be months away, so we would counsel you to simply caution him to be patient and let things coalesce that are in process. You can tell him there is a possibility of a reordering of his focus, but will be for his benefit and will satisfy him in the end, however it works out, because it will feel right to him and that will be a good thing.
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