What she is detecting with her perceptions intuitively is as much truth about her fears as an accurate reading of actual cause and effect in what her husband is experiencing. So she is deriving a conclusion from the fact her husband is dying and is also a member of the MAP, that it will be making her safer. But that is not the reason for his having a fatal illness at the moment, that is a karmic consequence of all he has endured, being a member of this program going through multiple lifetimes now. So it is not a willful intent on his part to spare her from potential harm by taking himself out of the picture, nor is it a divine orchestration for that purpose, but simply his journey and would happen with or without her.
In fact, she has been a tremendous asset in delaying karmic consequences from overtaking him much, much earlier in life than has been the case. So she has helped him to benefit from their relationship for a longer period of time, and herself as well, despite the negative aspects and the heartache in all that has transpired and her greater awareness of the darker aspects of the history here. Those are simply the realities of existence brought into awareness and the consequences would play out with or without her knowing the underlying story. It does give her more to be sad about because it is unpleasant by definition, but there are many gains from going through challenges of this kind and the many travails leading up to someone’s passing, and the aftermath of survivors as well whose life will be inevitably shaped through the conditioning of all that has come before. So there will be a need for continued growth and healing. That will be an asset in the final analysis and she will come to see that in the future looking back on her life. So none of this needs to be regretted or feared. It simply is what is going on and must be lived through and handled as best she can with equanimity and resolve to do her best and focus on the flow of love as much as she can, both for herself and her husband, to be a resource in providing comfort and reassurance as well as seeing to her own well‑being as that is most appropriate because no one can do it for her.
We know she has the strength to get through this no matter how things go and will land on her feet. There will be unhappiness and suffering along the way inevitably, but this she has known many times before and has the wherewithal to keep her balance and to achieve a restitution and realignment of things to overcome any adversity. Some things simply will take time and some may never heal completely, but if she does the best she can to obtain the most healing she is able to, she will be a winner from all that has happened with regard to her future being one of greater capability and excellence from all the hard-won learning she is getting along the way. So that is the silver lining and small comfort when one is grieving and facing uncertainty, but if she turns to us for help, we will be there with her and can help her with the inner strength and love she will need to keep going and make the most of her life under difficult circumstances.
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