He then asks: “Are [a different name withheld] and I soulmates, and is it safe for us to engage? She’s interested in me but is in a polyamorous relationship which makes me step back. What is the divine perspective on polyamory?” What can we tell him?

Here, too, you are responding to mutual affinities that make you attractive to one another. But the question of readiness is more the issue, and again you can control yourself more effectively than control another person. The divine perspective of polyamory is that it is a kind of emptiness seeking fulfillment as a consequence of a lack of depth in any particular close relationship. That is why such individuals need multiple partners, they are not being deeply satisfied by any relationship they foster, and so will have yearnings unfulfilled and will be tempted to fill that void with yet another intimate relationship. This they justify as simply an expression of personal freedom, to not be a slave to one individual, and so on, when that is really not the issue at hand, the problem is as much their own as the inadequacy of the other parties they end up involved with. Water seeks its own level and people drawn to that arrangement are often a good match in terms of that pathology, and that is truly what it is, it is an inability to love deeply, because love requires more than chemistry, a physical attraction, a desire for another to be close to them, and enjoy intimacy with them. There are many activities, responsibilities, obligations, and challenges in life and normally, when this is shared by a life partner, will invigorate and enrich both, in working as a team and taking on great challenges and solving them together, and caring about one another all the more because they have been tested by the fire, to some extent at least, and passed the test, they have stood fast and stood by each other and not withdrawn, let alone fled the scene, looking for something better or less challenging. Challenge will come no matter who one is with, so the polyamorous relationships tend to be transient for that reason, sooner or later there will come a challenge too great to be handled and tolerated and one or the other party will move on and eventually may leave the group entirely. We are elaborating on this because we see this as a significant challenge for the future of a satisfying relationship with this individual. It is not a simple choice or just a philosophy in being a desired lifestyle. Investing one's heart in someone who cannot reciprocate is a losing proposition. This can be changed through deep healing, but such things take time, and this would define the limits in the arrangement, much like the difference between a marriage and a project needing to be worked on always—the latter may be interesting but less enjoyable.