A viewer asks: “I had a Deep Subconscious Trauma Resolution session done for my teen son a few years ago which gave me a feedback recording of some of his troubling lives. My heart poured out for him as I learned of traumatic lives where he was tortured by ETs and where he died homeless. Now, he’s 18 and I am at a fork in the road. I have to move because I am struggling to pay for rent and bills. I’d like to have my son with me and yet he’s not going to college, not working aside from a few side jobs and he’s disrespectful to me. I told him I can only afford a 1 bedroom unless he contributes for a 2nd and he replied it’s not his job to help me. If I move without him I’m afraid I’ll be abandoning him and he’ll be homeless. He won’t live with his father.” What is Creator’s perspective?

This is one of the more difficult of life circumstances, when in order to help a loved one it might be most appropriate to withhold a loving gesture of tolerance and support. That is the danger of enabling a state of helplessness or inaction that is not serving the individual, when what they need is a wake-up call to face the reality that life is challenging and they must apply themselves and be diligent to achieve any kind of stability. Without that, happiness will be fleeting and lead to additional problems to further undermine things. This is one of those crossroads you have come to, where you have done your best to raise him but are at a critical juncture where you must see to your own needs and stability. To put yourself at risk personally, given the lack of responsibility he exhibits along with a lack of caring, are unhealthy signs about what could happen. You are in charge of your life, but only marginally in charge of his to the extent now, you allow him to be dependent on you. If that is only a dead weight, it can drag you under, if you let it, by pinning your hopes on him coming through as a means of partial support. As you have seen the signs already, this does not look promising. There are many ways to handle things. If you have time, you could put him to the test and say, "If you want me to help subsidize your lifestyle in sharing a residence, you need to demonstrate your maturity and responsibility by a giving me a rent payment, starting now. I need to have evidence you can do this and stick with it before I risk buying another place large enough to accommodate you, which I cannot afford without you being responsible and committing to being a regular contributor." That could allow him a lifeline and create a teachable moment, if he fails the test and you then cut him loose. This is only an example. It would, at best, be a risk, because there are any number of reasons he might want to sprout his wings and leave. Even if he's able to pay rent, he might want to move in with a new girlfriend who comes along, and then what will happen if he is not able to rent an apartment with her and pay you regularly as well to keep up your place? We cannot run your life. We cannot be leading here. We are only describing these things by way of inviting you to take a good hard look at the reality before you, given the track record is an unfavorable one, before you continue putting your welfare at risk with an uncertain likelihood of him helping.