A client asks about a difficult relationship: “Where should I go from here regarding matters of the heart? Letting go doesn’t feel right, and holding on feels so lonely. I feel like we were right for each other but were just in different places. It’s like I’m waiting for her to be ready, but I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing or what else I should do when letting go feels so wrong.”

This is perfectly understandable when you consider that coming together while in love, creates strong energetic interconnections. You are heavily corded to her, and she to you, still. Cords take a long while to fade in their influence if there is strong emotion behind them, and the love bond is among the strongest possible interconnections two human beings can have. Even when love grows weak, it does not change what has come before. This explains why it is difficult to break free of someone once a love connection has become established, and also why it becomes so very painful. The cordings continue to exist and will throb and present constant reminders to various levels of the mind of what once was, and what is desired to still be the case. You are strongly motivated as a spiritual human being to seek love and to prize it above everything else. That is, indeed, a spiritual perspective. But there are inevitable times in most lives, in fact, where a relationship gets going that is, in a sense, ill-fated due to a basic incompatibility. It might be the incompleteness of one partner compared to another or simply a weaker level of intention for the love to flourish, because it is felt more strongly by one party versus the other. That disparity can chafe and threaten the relationship because, in a sense, being unbalanced, it was energetically doomed to fail or at least never be fully satisfying to either party. That is what an imbalance brings about, neither party to the relationship truly is getting what they want in such situations. People must sometimes simply face facts that it is not in the cards to achieve a rewarding and fulfilling relationship that is stable and grows stronger over time, and not weaker. True love will grow in becoming more highly enriched, reaching deeper levels of meaning, and deeper levels of gratification. Those who grow old together in a successful life partnership based on love come to understand how satisfying, deep, and rich the love bonds can become from knowing one is truly valued, respected, and even honored by another, in addition to being cared about deeply. That is a strength and intensity that springs from a love offering as opposed to neediness for love. Many relationships have one, or even both partners, who are seeking love more than being able to bestow it. That imbalance will likely remain because someone unable to do both, give and receive love, cannot be a successful life partner in the fullest sense of what is possible. This might be difficult to change because it is usually based on prior karmic trauma leading to that insufficiency and inadequacy of expression. That healing need will be difficult to contend with. Even when someone is able to successfully summon a divine intervention on their behalf to deal with such a situation, it may not be possible within the time of the current life to accomplish the needed repair for what is missing. That, of course, is highly variable. Some people will be salvageable and others not, given the degree of karmic disarray they are faced with, but do not know this consciously. We see you as the stronger party here and that puts you a good position to make wise choices so your life can have a better direction and have the potential of finding a partner who will be truly supportive and satisfying. At the same time, there is growth needed for you as well, and that is underway through the healing you are receiving from the divine realm. What is needed for a successful partnership based on love is not perfection, but a willingness to work at making it successful, and that means working on the self to smooth out rough edges, shore up areas of weakness, and learn to be proactive in finding ways to approach a relationship in a balanced fashion, honoring the self as well as the other party. For this, you can seek divine guidance and we will always work to inspire, guide, heal, and protect. The more you reach out to us, the more we can do to help you and those you care about.