DWQA Questions › Tag: trauma episodesFilter:AllOpenResolvedClosedUnansweredSort byViewsAnswersVotes“Shame on you!” We’ve all heard it, and we’ve all said it. The Oxford Dictionary defines shame as both a feeling and an action, “a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior,” as well as, to “make (someone) feel ashamed.” Shame is a feeling nearly everyone everywhere tries to avoid, with the irony being that those most vulnerable to criticism are the ones most prone to overindulge in attempting to elicit that feeling in others. In some ways the dichotomy of shame is perhaps the most profound of hypocrisy litmus tests there is. What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Limiting Beliefs104 views0 answers0 votesPavlov’s dog. If that term is unfamiliar to you, it is worth your time to get familiar with what it really means. Ivan Pavlov demonstrated a “conditioned response” in the dogs he used for experimentation. Some of these experiments were quite cruel and involved electric shocks to impair or elicit both involuntary physiological as well as behavioral responses. The act of shaming is actually a very similar paradigm, and it’s easy to imagine the one doing the shaming as having an electric shock button that they press to deliver a very uncomfortable at best, and excruciatingly painful at worst, emotional shock to the recipient’s consciousness. What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Limiting Beliefs79 views0 answers0 votesShaming is not isolated to humans. An acquaintance has a five-year-old beagle who has an undesirable habit of urinating on the hardwood floor if not put outside on a timely basis. The dog has been trained entirely through rewards and only verbal shaming as punishment. But the effect of shaming can be quite profound. The dog knows that urinating inside the house is undesirable behavior and displeasing to the humans in the house, so the dog makes sure no one is watching when she goes. As an adult dog, she has never been caught in the act. One recent morning this acquaintance found the all too familiar puddle on the floor and turned to the dog right behind them, pointed to the puddle, and said, “No,” just, “No.” Not loud or even conveying much in the way of emotion, just enough to communicate displeasure. The response of the dog was rather extreme—tail between her legs and she wandered off to hide under the raised footrest of a recliner for a few minutes “until the coast was clear.” The acquaintance was a bit “taken aback” at the profound effect of a simple, “No.” This person does not shame the dog very often, and that may be one explanation for the exaggerated effect. What can Creator tell us?ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Limiting Beliefs118 views0 answers0 votesThe feeling of shame is associated with the “conscience” of a person. In fact, the very existence of this phenomenon is one of the most persuasive arguments there is for the existence of the divine. It’s hard to take the “conscience” for granted. Unfortunately, we have learned that the feeling of shame is a rather crude form of messaging that can be delivered from multiple sources, some benevolent and some malevolent. Presumably, it can come from the higher self, guides and guardians, and even Creator. It can also be triggered by the deep subconscious, cellular memory, spirit attachments, and perhaps most alarmingly of all, the interlopers—fallen angelics and extraterrestrials. Figuring out both the origin and relevancy of feelings of shame is one of the most profound challenges every human being faces. What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Limiting Beliefs84 views0 answers0 votesShaming seems to be the very root of much political discourse, with one side attempting to shame the other side. The negative effect of all this is that people eventually get cynical about all political discourse and will shy away from it altogether. It’s even more discouraging when the ones doing the most shaming are also the most hypocritical, and the most guilty of the behavior they are shaming the other side for. What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Limiting Beliefs83 views0 answers0 votesDefiance is the act of resisting shaming. The middle finger salute came about as it was common practice in the Middle Ages to cut off the middle finger of captured soldiers, as this finger was necessary for effective archery. Soldiers would come to taunt their enemies by showing them from across the battlefield that they still had their middle fingers. Today this gesture is widely used to communicate, “I reject your efforts to shame me.” As humans are prone to go too far in utilizing compensatory behaviors like this, we often end up rejecting more criticism and shaming in ways that are unwise. What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Limiting Beliefs83 views0 answers0 votesIt’s bad enough when the genesis of shame is others, but it can be even more insidious when the source of shame is the self. This can result in severe depression, withdrawal, and even suicide. It can even be embraced to the extent that the person fights off those attempting to counteract and heal their shame. The term “hugging your cactus” seems quite on target. What can Creator tell us?ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Limiting Beliefs102 views0 answers0 votesThe Battle of the Sexes can be sometimes downright comical and often involves nearly futile attempts to shame the other gender that simply don’t work. We see this when women frequently criticize men for “not asking for directions” and men almost universally just “laugh it off.” Most men are quite literally shameless when it comes to this behavior. Likewise, many, if not most women, cannot be effectively shamed for taking too long in the bathroom, and ignore such shaming attempts as, “Oh, just so much noise,” often increasing the frustration levels of the partner. More than one divorce ultimately results from these disparities. What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Limiting Beliefs81 views0 answers0 votesShaming can be seen as an assault on another person’s belief system. The one doing the shaming is trying to demonstrate that the belief being challenged is false or deficient in some way. This can be where there is power in numbers, and the more people that can be enlisted in joining the one attempting to shame, the more profound the shame actually experienced by the recipient can be. It’s not an exaggeration that profound public shaming and embarrassment can lead to both suicide and homicide. And while psychopaths are said to lack a conscience, shaming one publicly might be the last thing you ever do. What can Creator tell us?ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Limiting Beliefs71 views0 answers0 votesThe topic of shame is a broad one, involving both feeling and action. In almost every instance there is a need for healing being demonstrated. Can Creator tell us how Empowered Prayer, the Lightworker Healing Protocol, Deep Subconscious Mind Reset, and Divine Life Support are the perfect tools for addressing shame, avoiding shame, and developing the wisdom to use shame sparingly and with the greatest effectiveness for the most desirable outcomes for all affected beings?ClosedNicola asked 2 months ago • Limiting Beliefs69 views0 answers0 votesSteven Covey said: “Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 6 months ago • Limiting Beliefs86 views0 answers0 votesGeorge MacDonald said: “To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.” What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 6 months ago • Limiting Beliefs102 views0 answers0 votesFrank Crane said: “You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.” What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 6 months ago • Limiting Beliefs91 views0 answers0 votesLao Tzu said: “He who does not trust enough, Will not be trusted.” What is Creator’s perspective?ClosedNicola asked 6 months ago • Limiting Beliefs107 views0 answers0 votesHow much is a lack of belief in the divine, really a lack of trust in the divine?ClosedNicola asked 6 months ago • Limiting Beliefs106 views0 answers0 votes
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