DWQA Questions › Tag: coping behaviorFilter:AllOpenResolvedClosedUnansweredSort byViewsAnswersVotesFor the purposes of this topic, we’ll define “strange coping behavior” as repeated patterns of behavior or obsessions and habits that appear to third-party observers to cause more problems than they solve. They are not so severe as to win the insanity label, or result in losing custody of children. Why do so many people seem to lack everyday common sense?ClosedNicola asked 4 years ago • Karma277 views0 answers0 votesHow much does past-life trauma account for quirky behavior? For instance, there is a person with an obsessive need to keep cupboards and refrigerators so full of food, that one cannot open the door without stuff falling out? And if any space does open up, this person begins to feel uncomfortable and anxious, with the only solution being to go to the store and fill those spaces. This seems to be emotionally, not rationally, motivated behavior. Can Creator explain why she does this?ClosedNicola asked 4 years ago • Karma265 views0 answers0 votesThere was a young man in his youth who suffered more than his fair share of tragedy. He had two siblings die in childhood, and a third disappear after running away and becoming homeless. He lived at home with his parents well into his middle-aged adulthood and worked a modest low-paying job as a hospital orderly. Yet, he saved enough money to buy a new high-end muscle car that was a favorite with collectors. The enigmatic thing was that he would spend up to two hours every day washing and detailing the vehicle. Can Creator share what purpose this behavior served for this individual, as the car certainly did not require daily washing?ClosedNicola asked 4 years ago • Karma299 views0 answers0 votesAn outwardly successful business owner, who was also a black belt martial artist and powerfully built, and who carried himself as if nothing in the universe could possibly frighten him, turned out to have an inordinate fear of water. So much so, that when invited to a pool party with an above-ground pool only five feet deep, and with him being over six feet tall, he still would not go in the water, but was observed to keep himself well away from the pool’s edge. What can account for this man’s deep-seated phobia of water?ClosedNicola asked 4 years ago • Karma292 views0 answers0 votesThere is a martial artist who has six black belts in six different disciplines. Once when asked “why,” he replied, “others golf, this is what I do.” But another time he was overheard complaining after practicing with weapons (wooden swords and knives) that he simply couldn’t stand “being vulnerable” as he put it. This from a man with six black belts. Can Creator share what trauma has clearly fueled this man’s lifelong obsession with self-defense?ClosedNicola asked 4 years ago • Karma286 views0 answers0 votesSaving money is wise, more often than not. But when it becomes an obsession, it can result in a number of issues. Hoarding is one of them. Some people will buy an endless string of used goods if they are cheap, but whether the item purchased is even needed or useful, is a secondary concern. To the extent that such a person is convinced that saving money is good, arguments advocating moderation seem to fall on deaf ears. Can Creator comment?ClosedNicola asked 4 years ago • Karma306 views0 answers0 votesSpouses throughout the ages have noted that they are rarely listened to. A spouse might observe that a window where a spouse is trying to grow some starter plants lacks sufficient sunlight, but is utterly and even violently ignored. But when a neighbor who is anything but a botanist points out the same thing, the plants get moved right away. Even though people have more mobility today, we seem to be isolated more than ever. People have fewer and fewer non-family guests than ever before. Common sense appears to need common inputs from multiple people. Does excessive privacy and isolation impair common sense?ClosedNicola asked 4 years ago • Karma302 views0 answers0 votesWe know that the deep subconscious communicates through emotion and that it falls to the conscious mind to decide what it means and act accordingly. In lucid moments, people enslaved to irrational behaviors will even admit that they themselves see the irrationality, but “cannot help themselves.” Clearly, there is a healing need here in terms of removing underlying past and parallel life trauma that is fueling the emotion leading to the irrational behavior, but beliefs are also in play. In addition to healing the trauma, do the beliefs have to be dealt with as well?ClosedNicola asked 4 years ago • Karma305 views0 answers0 votesThe problem with everyday irrational behavior, especially when there are agendas working at cross purposes, is that it can lead to even bigger problems if left unchecked—perhaps even resulting in trauma worse than the original insult creating the behavior to begin with. As an example, perhaps the spouse wakes up one day, decides they have had enough, and ends the marriage. How can people realize they have to push back against their own irrationality (and not wait for others to do it)?ClosedNicola asked 4 years ago • Karma311 views0 answers0 votesPushing back against one’s own emotions and habits is usually countered by the deep subconscious with even more intense emotion and anxiety. Marshalling inner strength seems an almost inexplicable outcome of excessive irrational behavior. At what point does the deep subconscious finally relent and ease off in response to a newly determined self, no longer willing to accept such emotions uncritically? Is it simply a bigger trauma overwhelming a smaller one, or is it the long-in-coming birth of wisdom?ClosedNicola asked 4 years ago • Karma310 views0 answers0 votesHitting rock bottom is the hard way to overcome everyday irrationality. Can Creator share how prayer work and the Lightworker Healing Protocol provide an easier way to resolve our not so benign idiosyncrasies?ClosedNicola asked 4 years ago • Karma315 views0 answers0 votes
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