Hers is a more difficult situation because of her declining cognitive function. This indeed has been a retreat from life that is desired within. The work you have done to help prepare for transition is very timely because this will also allow her to have some additional breathing room, so to speak, so the decline will be more gentle and that can be a blessing here for both she and the husband. There are physical limits that will determine when their time arrives, but you have accomplished the objective of doing a good preparation to face the issue of her eventual departure with less fear and concern from prior times with a rocky passage and a difficult afterlife as well. Those will be less concerning problems, now that healing has been brought to bear for her. So we would say your primary objective has been addressed quite nicely. The deeper issues moving her towards a kind of withdrawal prematurely, are a more daunting challenge. You could choose to fight it with further work, but this is a trade-off given her age and overall general condition and inner desire to truly move on with her existence. At this stage, her departure would be a blessing in many ways, and nothing to be feared or mourned, truly, by family, as she is slipping away in any case and represents a mixed blessing from her continued presence. It is always nice to have the loved one nearby and accessible to spend time with, if only for sentimental reasons, but realistically speaking, a declining quality of the exchange is a mixed blessing when the primary concern is really what it provides for her, and the true merit in hanging onto life when that is no longer desired on a deep level. So this has been a merciful healing outreach to help clear away some of the inner emotional conflict. Whatever she chooses within will likely be in her best interest overall, and that is the kind of moral and ethical support that is highest and best to give.
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